(CNN)Not showing up to a wedding you’ve said you’ll attend is bad form, but billing wedding guests for missed meals is probably not the best way to handle no-shows.
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That’s the sticky situation that recently unfolded for Jessica Baker of Andover, Minnesota.
The stay-at-home mother and her husband had planned to attend a cousin’s wedding but had to skip when their child care fell through at the last minute, according to CNN affiliate WCCO.
The invitation specifically said “no children,” so the couple stayed home.
A few weeks later, an invoice from the newlyweds arrived for the wedding meal they missed.
“I was pretty shocked to see that I was being charged $75 for herb-crusted walleye and a service and tax charge,” Baker told WCCO.
The invoice suggests that Baker did not let the bride and groom know that she and her husband couldn’t make it at the last minute.
A typed note on the bill reads, “Reimbursement and explanation for no show, card, call or text would be appreciated.”
Baker posted her frustration with the bill on Facebook, and an avalanche of comments and media requests soon followed.
Sending a bill to no-shows is a definite faux pas, according to Daniel Post Senning, co-host of the “Awesome Etiquette” podcast and great-great-grandson of manners expert Emily Post.